Realistic pendulum, is it that simple?

I am looking into pendulum physics for a real life application. In short I need to have a reasonable estimate of the horizontal stress applied by a swing mechanism supported by a wooden structure.

I started with an ideal pendulum representation (weightless string + bob of mass $m$, no damping or further complications), although I cannot use a small angle approximation.

From energy conservation I found the following expression for the angular velocity $omega$ as a function of the pendulum angle $theta$, provided that the pendulum starts at rest at angle $theta_0$ and has length $l$:

$$ omega = sqrt{frac{2g}{l}(cos(theta)-cos(theta_0))} $$
So the tension $T$ sustained at any time (i.e. angle) by the structure should be:
$$T = mgcos(theta)+mlomega^2 = mg(3cos(theta)-2cos(theta_0))$$

1. It boggles me that the tension does not depend on the pendulum length, as the centripetal component is related to the bob tangential velocity while the velocity will clearly be affected by the pendulum length. Something really seems wrong here.

2. Is the tension as seen by the structure exactly radial ? In which case I could simply take the sine of it to get an estimate of the horizontal stress?

3. Provided that the derivation is correct, is it consistent with a rigid rod setup rather than a string?

Thanks