How should I save for a down payment on a house while also maxing out my retirement savings? Is that not feasible at my income level?

You can't do it all.

This is why I dislike "put everything in your 401k!" advice: it ignores the reality that there are things other than retirement which are worthwhile to spend money on .

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Financial planning requires you to consider all your financial goals, and prioritize them. As it stands, you have defaulted to consider your retirement savings to be the #1 priority, but it is not clear that you have done that after careful analysis. It seems you have done that out of perhaps a fear of what retired life will look like for you.

Financial goals go beyond simply 'x financial milestones', but also quality of life determinations over the course of your whole life. Something to consider in that vein - are you going to spend 40 working years living in poor conditions, in order to have a 'champagne on the yacht' retirement?

A simple example to mull over - let's assume your current annual living expenses are $40k, after taxes. Simple rule of thumb is that a well-diversified but somewhat-risky investment portfolio grows enough that you can withdraw about 4% annually, forever, while still maintaining a stable balance that grows with inflation. In this example, you could draw your $40k of living expenses off of a balance of $1M. This means that if you find the philosopher's stone and live another 100 years after retirement starts, you could still do so if you retired once you hit $1M in investments.

If you do the math on your current investment rate until your intended date of retirement, you might find that on a 7% increasing investment value, you might hit retirement age with $2M in the bank. Meaning you are living on $40k / year while you're young, in order to retire at an $80k / year lifestyle.

What goals should be prioritized ahead of retirement savings? That is something you need to consider deeply. Start by building a current budget for yourself on how you live today, and think hard about what quality of life improvements you could make (including, in your case, a desire to buy your own home), and whether that would mean more for you than an extra $x allowance in retirement.

Get the details here, but the short version is you can withdraw the entirety of your contributions to a Roth IRA plus up to $10,000 in earnings, without paying any penalty or tax, in order to purchase your first home. So there is no conflict between those goals.

The investment value (setting aside the personal value) of buying a home is to speculate on land appreciation with the help of a big subsidy from the federal government. The gov't will give an FHA loan or sponsor a 'conforming' mortgage for a far longer term (30 years) with a far lower down payment (3.5% or 5%) and with far more generous terms (a fixed rate, few covenants and no prepayment penalty) than could be obtained in a free market for mortgages. That said, home prices already include much of the benefit of this subsidy. You're betting that the land appreciates even further than it already has under this regime of subsidies.

Note that land appreciation is not guaranteed. In Cleveland, Chicago and Baltimore there hasn't been much appreciation. In Phoenix and Tampa there has been appreciation but with wild swings (a crash in 2007-2009).

If you are single, you could consider "house hacking." See BiggerPockets.com for their take on the duplex or boarding house investment strategy.

I'm about your age (34) and understand feeling the need to save as much as possible. I was maxing out my Roth IRA when I was making <$25k an year (grad school). Once I graduated and started making "real" money, I was saving probably 25%-30% of my gross income for about 3 or 4 years, although I never maxed out a 401(k). But a couple of years ago I started really thinking about what I really wanted. I like some aspects of FIRE, but I don't want to sacrifice all of "now" for it, especially since I mostly enjoy my work (indeed, I think my "ideal retirement" would still involve working part time). I got married, bought a house, and plan to start a family soon, so there's financial obligations that I had to address.

So I started looking at my account balances and some simple projections of their value at retirement and started to realize that I was actually in pretty good shape, even if I made conservative estimates. I reevaluated my savings and decided to keep maxing out the HSA but I dropped the 401(k) down to just get the full company match. I still add to the IRA and often max it out, but it isn't a huge priority. I'm now saving around just12-15%. And I feel ok with that because I already have a good foundation. I would feel very differently if I were just starting my savings journey.

Obviously, what level of savings that make you sleep at night is very personal, but you sound like you probably have more saved up that I ever did, and I have saved up much more than most at our age (not really a great indicator, of course). Look at what you have and what you want and reanalyze if what you're doing is getting you there. Personal finance isn't about running up the score before the end of the game (you can't take it with you, after all), but it's about being able to comfortably enjoy life the best you can.

And with regards to the house, this is going to sound sacrilegious, but you don't need to have 20% down. Yes, you'll have PMI costs that you'll have to factor in. You'll never get the money back that you spend on PMI, but the same is true on rent, or interest. We only put down about 7% on our home 3.5 years ago (again, not unlike you, we put a lot into the retirement) and had to pay PMI. For us, it was worth it. It wasn't that much more in the scheme of things, and since we went with a 15-year loan we were able to get it removed in 2.5 years. If we waited to save up 20%, we might still be saving and would have spent much more on rent than on PMI. The calculation will most assuredly be different for you (our house was just over $150k, not $300k, and PMI was ~$40/month, so basically an temporary extra 0.25% on the interest). But it's a calculation that you should look into doing.

Two things stick out at me that I would consider adjusting:

1. You are putting a very large percentage of income into retirement. You could easily lower that amount to provide some more "breathing" room. Another idea would be to switch some of the Roth to Traditional on either the 401k or the IRA which would reduce your taxes by approximately 22% of the amount you switch. You'd probably do better though to simply reduce the total contribution amount instead.
2. A $300K home seems like a lot for $65K income. It sounds like you selected $300K because it's the median. But what's the median income in that area? Every location is different, but for example in my county the median income is $92K, and the median home value is $224K. Property taxes are pretty high in my county though, so that could make a significant difference in how much people can afford. Regardless, you may want to set your sights on a less expensive home initially. This has the additional benefit of not creating as big of a differential from how much you pay in rent now, vs how much your monthly out of pocket will be for home ownership.

I think one thing to keep in mind is that saving is saving. One way to save money (in the sense of "put money into savings," not "spend less money") is to put it into retirement accounts. Another way is to put it into an ordinary savings account. Another way is to buy a house and make principal payments.

In other words, you should keep in mind that spending money on a house can still count as "saving for retirement," and so if you want to save for retirement, perhaps you should temporarily stop making retirement account contributions, buy a house, and then start making contributions again. That may be a more cost-effective way of saving for retirement than maxing out your contributions.

There is no guarantee that your savings will have any value when you retire. Balance is important.

Inflation is rampant and with all the helicopter money from the covid fixes it will get even worse.

There is no guarantee that you will even live long enough to retire either.

I maxed out my savings plans but could have made much more by investing in higher return possibilities and paying the taxes.

I got most of my savings for retirement from selling my house vs my IRA/401K. Not sure if that would still work for you in this economy.

Better you save some but invest it where returns are far better than corporate 401Ks and most IRAs where the planners got rich and we got crumbs.

I suggest you forget material wealth and focus on what God wants you to do. The future after your retirement will be much longer and you need to save up for that time too.

Everything is a tradeoff. I salute you for being so long-term-thinking with regards to your retirement (much more than myself at your age), but do keep in mind the one big "gotcha" with retirement savings:

It's largely inaccessible until late in your life.

In my mind, that means that it's basically a non-liquid asset -- even less than non-liquid assets like a home. This can present a problem if you have a substantial financial need between now and when the money becomes available (without a large penalty).

It is usually smart to have a mix of assets, from very liquid to very non-liquid, available during your life journey. Otherwise, your options how to deal with unexpected surprises during this journey are far more limited. (Google stuff on "asset rich cash poor" for various discussions.)

As a result, I would suggest you plan for the future as a whole (short-term, mid-term, and long-term) with your savings and excess income, rather than putting basically all your eggs in the long-term basket.

Two early pieces of advice I received and have found very valuable during my own journey were:

• Always take advantage of any employer-matching 401K amount (as a minimum).
• If you have the options for an ESPP (employee stock purchase plan) where the company gives a discount, think very hard about taking advantage of this as well.

Both give almost immediate significant returns, even if (in the ESPP case) you just turn around and sell the stock to put somewhere less ... exciting.