You are seriously way ahead of most Americans. You have an amazing salary, a lot in savings at such a young age. It is hard for many to have $5,000 saved up in their accounts, because of so much they have to pay for. Mortgage rent, fees, bills, utilities, shopping, cars, phones, you name it. Since a house is an asset, you should look into getting one. With your salary, you can get a good sized home for a good price. I advise getting a house first before a nice car. Good luck and don't be discouraged!

I'd like to suggest that your problem is not a money problem, but a perception problem. The enemy is between your ears.

At age 28, you have no debt, 75k in savings, a full-time job making $84k/year, and a wife who will I am assuming eventually receive her degree and also become an earner. You are supporting two people on your salary currently, and managing to save money at the same time.

What I do perceive in your description of your situation is fear. The fear borne of the unknown and also of comparison. "Compare and despair," they say.

To be sure, there are economic realities currently that give you some reasonable grounds for concern about your finances. But these are concerns we all share. For instance, it is hard to make money on money these days by just keeping it in a savings account or certificate of deposit. Higher returns mean higher risk. What portion of your monthly income are you willing to now divert into higher risk investments such as stocks, precious metals, cybercurrency, etc.? You are young and you can afford to take more risk for more return, tempered always by certain guidelines, such as having six months of living expenses in a prudent reserve.

Also, houses are expensive, cars are expensive, and there's no shame in avoiding those purchases until such time as you feel your finances make them "feel" much more affordable for you. We Americans especially seem accustomed to living on the edge financially, and that strung-out, on-the-edge feeling becomes the accepted reality. It does not have to be that way. By having no debt and -- compared to other 28-year-olds -- substantial savings ("Among those 34 and younger, couples without children have the most put away: They have an average of $4,727 in savings." See https://www.cnbc.com/2019/03/11/how-much-money-americans-have-in-their-savings-accounts-at-every-age.html), you have started on a different path from these strung-out unfortunates.

You have not discussed your job and whether you enjoy it, but if you do, or at least find it acceptable, then your position is even stronger.

Also, you have not discussed your daily record-keeping habits with regard to money. In my own experience, it has been important to record all my income and all my expenses, on a weekly if not daily basis, so that I am conscious and appreciative of where my money is coming from and where it is going. I also have a spending plan, and this plan is informed by my values. For instance, I don't value a constant stream of new clothes (nothing against those who do), and so my clothing budget is relatively small, but I value a constant stream of information on certain topics, and so my Internet subscription spending plan is large.

I describe this because, if there is an aspect of your spending that is "draining" your $84k salary on something you do not value, you will uncover it with this sort of regular record-keeping. Clarity is your friend here.

You may find, in fact, that you are saving too much, and that you need to do some spending in some other categories in order to balance your values here and bring some joy back into your life.

Last thing I would suggest: Find some pandemic-friendly way to celebrate your good fortunate -- perhaps to-go food from a fine restaurant for you and your wife, or a day trip to nice place to hike. You get the idea. Then, I would build that regular celebration of your good fortune into your schedule. Over time your fear will lessen, you will stop comparing, and you will feel some peace around this issue.

Most people in developed countries live in debt, most of the time.

It has its advantages (esp. for the economy as a whole), the drawback is less financial security and less freedom of decisions. It also drives prices up - your earned money compete with the money people will earn later (and most people's income between age 20 and 50 goes steadily up faster than the inflation).

You are on the other side.

• You have no debt, you have savings. Almost an year of income in savings. You are rock-solid against losing job and/or some other unpleasant event.
• Your wife graduates soon and will hopefully start working (and earning) soon.
• You don't have a car and associated expenses and liabilities. You are lucky to also not need a car.
• You don't have a home - it may be good or bad for finances and also good or bad for your well-being.
• You probably don't have a credit history. Probably bad by itself but still better than bearing a debt.

So far, so good.

Trying to outspend your peers/neighbours/coworkers/etc may be good for the economy as a whole, but not so good for yourself in particular.

If your wife supports your general financial direction and if your therapy is not very expensive, you are going pretty strong.

p.s. Out-bragging your peers is WAY cheaper than outspending them. Keep in mind it is equally valid for themselves and take it easy.

While I completely agree with the answers that your situation is not as dire as you think it is, I'd like to give some practical steps you can take to help your perception of where you're at financially.

First, make sure you control where you money is going. You at least are not spending more than you make, which is great, but being in control of your money may give you more peace of mind that wondering where it went.

Write out a budget every month that lists your income first. Then start listing your expenses in order of priority. Food, shelter, utilities, transportation, etc. Put luxuries and debt payments (if you had any) last (in that order). Most people use up all of their income before they get through all of the expenses, and have to either find some extra income or give up some expenses for the month.

It will take a few months to get the budget right, but since you aren't in debt it's not as big of a deal. You can pad your budget a little to reduce how often you go over (and can carry over funds to the next month if you like).

The hard part is sticking to it. Once you're out of money for a category, you either need to stop spending in that category or steal some money form another category that you can cut.

You should also have an emergency fund that you can use to cover any unexpected, necessary expenses. 3 to 6 months of expenses is a common goal that should cover most unplanned expenses. The goal is to be able to cover these expenses without going into debt. You can have more or less depending on how stable your job situation is and how much expense risk you have (e.g. since you don't own a home you don't have to worry about having to pay for a new air conditioner or water heater).

Since you have no debt, you can then start saving for retirement. 15% is a common rule of thumb that adapts as your income grows, but you may want to be more aggressive now to have more peace of mind.

At this point you now have complete control of where your money goes. Now you can start setting some goals that you want to use your extra money for. Want a nicer house? Great! start saving up for a down payment if you want to get a mortgage (making sure you can afford the mortgage when you get it) or saving up for a full purchase if you're extremely committed. Want a nice car? Fantastic! Start saving for a car that you can pay for in cash (not a down payment as loans for things that go down in value are not wise investments).

Want to start a college fund now? Very wise. You may not think you need to save for college before you have kids, but college expenses are rising much faster that inflation, so the sooner you start the better so that you can invest in fund that outpace college inflation.

To echo the other answers, don't worry as much about what other people are doing. As you accomplish your financial goals you'll have more freedom than they could ever imagine (and you won't be BROKE).

40% of Americans can't cover a surprise $400 expense out of saving

The average American has $6,200 in credit card debt

You are way ahead of most Americans

Like buying a house, investing in a second property, having a fancy car etc.

And how much savings do they have? Probably not as much as you. How much credit card debt do they have? Probably a lot more than you!

What you are worried about is called Keeping Up With The Joneses. You should keep going to therapy, but focus on what makes you intrinsically happy. If you are constantly worried about out-buying your neighbors and friends you will be miserable and broke.

... plus a car

Given your savings, you could pay cash for a very nice car (but buy a simple car anyway). Given $75K, you could go to just about any used car dealership and pay cash for a good used car. Check out the Kelly Blue Book value before buying and buy a car 4 or 5 years old.

Do not buy a "nice" car. People can't see the kind of car you drive at an interview (unless the company has some REALLY bad policies). You can get a reliable car with decent gas mileage for under 10k in most places.

ability and confidence to buy a home

Unless you're one of very few cities (New York and San Franciso come to mind) $75K (or what's left after the car) should let you put 20% down no problem.

Some Reading

Check out No More Harvard Debt. It's a blog about a Harvard MBA graduate that bought a nice house, 2 nice cars, a motorcycle, and spent ~1500 a month on entertainment.

He was 100k in student debt and decided to pay it off in a year. There are several posts where he asked if he bought the stuff because he wanted it, or because his friends had it.

Edit

If you need to hear harrowing stories from people on the other side who are drowning in debt, The Dave Ramsey Show (a conservative money radio show), takes call after call from people who have two times their yearly income in debt.

Congrats! You're doing much better than you think.

seeing other people of the same age around me doing all the things which I feel I should already be doing. Like buying a house, investing in a second property, having a fancy car etc.

By not "keeping up with the Joneses", you are actually doing yourself a favor. Your peers may "look" more prosperous, but they are incurring the danger that you have avoided:

We don't have any debt or loan.

What a tremendous mix of good fortune and accomplishment that you can say this. Many, many people your age have negative savings (net worth) after accounting for debt.

Some published guidelines/benchmarks for savings are:

• "positive net worth 10 years after graduation"
• "by age 30...half your salary stored in your retirement account"
• for the ambitious, "age 30: 2X your average gross income"

With almost 1X salary in savings at age 28, you're doing quite well. There is nothing wrong with not owning a home or car if you don't need them.

user4815, I have great news.

You are simply

WRONG!!!

1. Your salary is great

2. Your savings are fantastic

3. It is INCREDIBLE that you have no debt

Read those three points again.

Sometimes in life we are wrong. Once, I thought rainbows were caused by clouds. But I was wrong.

You are wrong! And that's great news.

Read 1, 2, 3:

1. Your salary is great

2. Your savings are fantastic

3. It is INCREDIBLE that you have no debt

At your age everything is perfect.

Keep up the good work.

Here's a gold star since you rock:

My only suggestion - your wife should be working absolute minimum 20 hours a week (eg, at Starbucks or whatever). It's very easy to do college and work too. It's Wednesday so she can easily start this weekend. You will have $200 extra bucks in your savings by Sunday night. Enjoy!