Right of husband over Bidah issue?

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We have taken my wife brothers after her mom passed away. They make dua/prayer for his mom before eating on Thursday. I asked my wife of why do you guys do it and her answer was

we make dua so whatever is cooked/or we are eating. Allah give them a taste of it and in another version, I heard that the dua we make reach to the

I was shocked to hear that. As per my knowledge, a person who dies cannot know of this world and 3 things reach a deceased person

A ceaseless charity
Pious Children who makes du'a for him
A beneficial knowledge

My concern is that my wife is so strong on her belief of what her elders use to do that it is like she won't leave doing it but as a husband how much I am liable for her action and what if she teaches same to our kids and it will go on?
What rights does a husband have to stop such bi'dah.
I have stopped eating on Thursday on the table because of the intention.

Winter Bucky · Answer

Once a soul separated from a person's body, the world will have no more value to the person and he will be alone for Allah. Same goes to your situation, where the person who dies will not taste your cooking.

This is considered as bi'dah and Saidatina 'A'isha reported Allah's Messenger ﷺ as saying:

"He who innovates things in our affairs for which there is no valid
  (reason) (commits sin) and these are to be rejected." -Sahih Muslim, Vol. 4, Book of Judicial Decisions, Hadith 4266

Therefore, you should fix this thinking based on correct Islam teachings. Make du'a for forgiveness instead for the dead and that Allah pours His blessings to them.

Wallahualam.

Right of husband over Bidah issue?

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