Martial Arts Asked by RoundHouse on December 26, 2020
How do I find the balance between being a jerk (i.e., one who is hitting too hard) and being someone who is doing a disservice to female sparring partners (i.e., one who avoids hitting and mostly just defends and evades)?
What is an acceptable level of intensity when sparring with female partners? How hard should one hit? Which strikes should be reduced in power, and which strikes should be thrown like one would against a male partner?
This should be a no-brainer: Be respectful and courteous. Be gentle, and always pull back your strikes.
However, sometimes the situation can be a little difficult to navigate.
In my gym, when we spar during our class, we change partners every round. So, one almost never fights the same person twice in a row.
When I am sparring with a female partner, I often spend first half of the round (~ 1 min 30 sec) just blocking, parrying, pushing, and evading strikes. Two reasons.
First, I need a few seconds to adjust and change my style of fighting. When I am sparring with men, we are often testing our endurance and strength (everything goes – hooks, uppercuts, hard knees to the body, hard leg kicks, etc.). And of course, sometimes when I am sparring with a guy at the same level, the ego thing comes in (which is bad, I know, but it happens) and all strikes get harder and meaner. And so, when I spar with women, I want to take a few seconds to change my style and be more technical in my sparring (keep it playful, no knees, no body shots, no hard strikes to the face/head).
Second, I want to give them some time to get into their rhythm and to get their offense going. I also want them to have some fun throwing their combos. I want them to get comfortable and know that I won’t do something crazy.
I almost never throw proper punches to their face/head (I just lightly tap on their forehead). Even a punch at 40% power from someone who weighs more than them can be painful. I happily throw leg kicks though, and I clinch and trip them (which is much safer than hitting them with punches). When I throw roundhouse kicks to the head or the body, I absolutely use no power (I just gently touch or push them with my leg/feet). I never use teeps (front kicks) when sparring with a female partner (I remember reading somewhere that repeated hits on the stomach can permanently damage organs/parts necessary for giving birth).
On a few occasions, I have been told "You can hit me, it’s okay." This made me realize that at times, I have done a disservice to them by not bringing in the right intensity. Half of the round, I have really not given them much to defend or worry about. I haven’t done the right thing as a training/sparring partner. I would never want anyone to go easy one me. Ideally, this is what I would want: if I spar at 50%, then my male opponent too should spar at their 50% (even if their 50% is much stronger than mine). I think I am not really helping my female partners by going light on them; I might be giving them a false sense of what to expect. Out there on the streets, the men will not care about going easy on them, they will be vicious.
How do I find the balance between being a jerk and being someone who is doing a disservice to them? I need to make sure I don’t treat them like children, and that I do right by them and don’t waste their time.
Allow me to clarify a few things.
I hold back fully on certain strikes (mostly power punches [= body shots, uppercuts, right hands], teeps, and knees). I throw the roundhouse to the head and the body very, very gently.
I throw other strikes, such as the inside and outside leg kicks, with some good power behind them. If I throw leg kicks with 70% power at a male partner, I will throw them with 60% power at my female partners. There is no chance of any kind of bleeding here!
I clinch and throw them down at a decent enough power, which replicates the level they would encounter in the ring. There is a lot of technique involved in clinching, a lot of footwork goes into it. And it is safe to use some power for the dumps because the floor has rubber mats. I have been told that they appreciate the clinch work.
Now, I am aware that my approach is wrong, and that is the reason I asked this question here – to know how to find the right balance.
As a short answer, I'd say that it comes down to trust and pattern recognition.
Respect the level of experience. During sparring, if the woman recognizes the patterns in your attack and defends with the right moves, then you can increase your intensity. If she's lobbing punches and kicking when there's no chance of connecting, ease up.
If you don't want a woman as a training partner, say so. Don't suffer through a round and ruin the mood.
If I ended up as the odd (wo)man out when choosing partners, I didn't care. I went and kicked the bag.
Eventually, one of my teachers would work a round with me or someone would get tired and choose me for their last sparring round. Yup! That didn't bother me either. I appreciated that someone had knocked some of the starch out of my partner before he got to me. Speaking for myself, as one woman's opinion, of course.
Sparring with Men
I reviewed some old training videos I posted on Youtube back in 2011. I watched myself sparring with a training partner, Kenny Tudo. We started our martial arts journey when our Academy opened. We took all the same classes and learned all the same moves. There's a bond between us that will never break because I learned how to fight with him.
Over time, we developed deep trust with each other. He knew exactly how much power to put into every kick or punch when we sparred together. We were intentional, technical and working to improve. We never once hurt each other. We trained together for more than four years.
Sparring with Someone Who is Better (Heavier) than You.
I haven't sparred with many women. Maybe two or three. One of the women is a professional MMA fighter, Danielle West. My experience sparring with her will help me answer this question.
I met Danielle on Facebook and invited her to visit my Academy. She wanted to train with the guys because she was preparing for an MMA fight.
I sparred with her, a short round. I was nervous. All the guys were leaning on the cage, watching. But she fought at my level (thank goodness) and everything turned out fine.
I was more nervous to spar with her than with any of my classmates. And that's chiefly because we didn't know each other. There was no trust, built up over time. I didn't know how she'd react if I found my rhythm and landed some sweet shots.
During our 2 minute sparring session, I clocked her rhythm and started to loosen up. I landed a good shot and then instantly regretted it. Oh no! Is she going to kill me? I pulled back.
I've never regretted that decision because I didn't have anything to prove and I just wanted to have fun with a professional female MMA fighter. If I got overly confident, she might have hit me too hard and that would have spoiled the afternoon.
Danielle was heavier than me. She went three rounds with Rin Nakai, once to a draw and the second time, a loss by decision. Rin Nakai made it to the UFC, but lost both her fights -- one to Meisha Tate and one to Leslie Smith. Meisha fought Ronda Rousey twice and lost. Leslie fought Cris Cyborg and lost (of course).
The afternoon was fun. And I loved watching the video again. Plus, I know that my guy friends were watching to make sure that the roughness was kept in check.
So, what does that have to do with a woman sparring with a man?
Specifically, if you want to wallop someone around, find some dude who's in the same mood as you and do that. If you want to develop sensitivity as a fighter, train with a woman (or someone smaller than you).
Excellent technique doesn't require power. Well thrown punches and kicks hurt. You must control how much power you're using.
Ask the woman how she wants to train. Is there something specific that she wants to work on? The same goes for you.
Pattern Recognition
Sparring became super-fun once I started recognizing patterns and learning how to respond to them. Because women aren't throwing heavy strikes, you can watch how they set things up. You can see opportunities or create them yourself. That skill practice will come in handy.
Watch the woman spar with someone else.
I had the same training partners for four years. We got better together and our training sessions got more intense. But as a woman (speaking for myself), I'm not fighting like that with some dude coming to the gym for the first time. It gets weird. Too much ego! No thanks.
I agree with the judo answer. Practice your skills. Adjust to your sparring partner's size, experience and ability. Have fun!
And yes, it is entirely possible that a woman might be more skillful than you. Excellent training partners are hard to find. Treat them like gold. You'll earn their trust, loyalty and respect.
Correct answer by thatgirlisfunny on December 26, 2020
At my school (karate), we're taught to tell our partners if we want less power (or more). And if someone asks, then we change what we're doing immediately. We also don't use techniques our partners don't have the curriculum for, especially if there's a big experience gap.
I regulate my sparring based on size and experience of my opponent, not gender.
I'd say most of our women who spar wear breast protectors so targeting the chest isn't a big deal. But, if you're training somewhere where it's not as common, it's probably a good idea to check in with your partner about what they're comfortable with.
I (a woman) tend to spar harder than some of the men my rank because I'm bigger than them and don't register the hits as much - it just depends on the person you're sparring.
Answered by usyrt on December 26, 2020
I'm not sure why you feel the need to adapt your sparring to women specifically.
I always try to adapt my sparring to the person I'm sparring with: make it interesting and challenging for them if I can, and let them do the same for me.
Always agree on the level of power (which can be implicit with people you know, but with smaller/less powerful people than you, make sure they're ok with what you throw)
When I spar, I pay attention to the following:
For example, if I spar with a lighter person who is also less experienced than me, I'll go more slowly, be more obvious, use simpler strikes, possibly avoid clinching if that's not something they want to work on yet.
With a partner preparing a fight, I'll go harder, I'll take instructions from the coach on what they should be working, and I'll try to make it as challenging as I humbly can.
In both cases, that's regardless of the partner's gender, because I don't see how that's relevant. The only difference is that the breast is a forbidden target for women.
Answered by njzk2 on December 26, 2020
Women are not children. You can use proper technique when sparring them. Lighten up according to their size and how seriously they train. A good rule of thumb is to hit them as hard as they hit you. Use all techniques, just lighter.
Watch sparring between high level people to get a sense for how they tone down intensity while still being technical with an opponent who is not on their level physically or skill-wise. Muay Thai legend Saenchai working with women's MMA champion Zhang Weili is one example.
when I spar with women, I want to take a few seconds to change my style and be more technical in my sparring (keep it playful, no knees, no body shots, no hard strikes to the face/head)
What you're describing is not technical. It is not sparring--you're not striking the head...or the body...or using any of your striking tools. Technical sparring is throwing techniques, including body shots and knees, at close to full speed but pulling most of the force just before impact.
I almost never throw proper punches to their face/head (I just lightly tap on their forehead). Even a punch at 40% power from someone who weighs more than them can be painful.
This is neither technical nor helpful. You have to throw real strikes, even if you don't hit with full power. A true jab at 20% power (but as much speed as possible until just before impact) is 100x more helpful to your partner than babying them.
When I throw roundhouse kicks to the head or the body, I absolutely use no power
This sounds fine, but if they tell you to hit harder, then you should use a little power with those.
I never use teeps (front kicks) when sparring with a female partner (I remember reading somewhere that repeated hits on the stomach can permanently damage organs/parts necessary for giving birth).
This is dumb and almost certainly false. Did you go impotent and sterile after getting kicked in the balls? Do your intestines not digest food because you got teeped in sparring? Teep the women you train with. They will thank you for it...if you have the skill to throw the strike with control.
Answered by Dave Liepmann on December 26, 2020
I will present a judo view of sparring, which will be partially applicable to a kickboxing situation. Judo has two key principles:
As applied to sparring, the first principle means that you both need to get something out of your time practicing together. If there is a large strength or size disparity (adult v. child, large v. small, strong v. weak, etc.), it does not make sense for the partner with the advantage to simply overpower the other because likely neither partner will benefit. Neither does it make sense to simply allow the disadvantaged partner to work all their moves because that means they get no resistance and the other partner gets no benefit either.
So you work on efficiency and skills you may not otherwise, like say fighting on your opposite side, focusing on counterattacking, timing, or footwork. This skillwork makes you more efficient and carries over to other partners.
Answered by mattm on December 26, 2020
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